The best bonding

"The best bonding time spent with your spouse is the time you spent in serving God together."

With the many advices I’ve heard on how to stay happily married, Serving and Seeking God together is the best by far because I believe that having the same purpose in life makes us more bonded and united.

If you’ve been to church for a while and you’ve been reading the bible, you’re sure familiar with Aquila and Priscilla, a couple who served God together with Apostle Paul around the Mediterranean. Whenever Aquila is mentioned, Priscilla's name comes after because they were one in their pursuit to serve Him.

Romans 16:3-4 Greet Priscilla and Aquila, my co-workers in Christ Jesus. They risked their lives for me. Not only I but all the churches of the Gentiles are grateful to them.

What really happens when a couple serve together?

When a couple chooses to unselfishly serve other together, they learn to be selfless, thus, selflessness becomes a culture for them which is one of the most needed ingredients for a lasting marriage and other relationships.

Another thing is how it helps develop their faith together as they see God’s hands working in and through the lives of the people they serve or pray for which deepens their spiritual maturity.

The more a couple spends time serving together, the more they can see and appreciate their spouses’ spiritual gifts. It makes marriages more solid as we support, help and back up each other. Although at some point, you will not agree on how things should be done, it will strip you off of your pride because you’re pursuing things not for yourselves but God’s.

I don’t know with you, but whenever I see a couple serving together and how it flaunts the way they understand and embrace God’s love, grace and generosity in their marriage, I see them as examples to be followed.

I am in love with my husband but I can’t help but fall in love with him more when I see him striving though he’s struggling just to serve God with me. He courageously drives us to worship venues in Tokyo and Yokohama where he’d minister to single men at church as I minister to single women. How he uses his Japanese language ability to translate preaching on Friday nights while I take over his life group at work when he’s not available and how he passionately teaches even when he also desires to learn.

Aside from worldly possessions we intend to give to our future kid/s, we want them to have a picture of how the Lord brought their parents together not just to multiply and build a family but to love, seek and serve Him that will have a lasting impact even when we’re long gone. It will serve as a blueprint of what they would pursue in the future too.

It's not always easy but it is worth it.

For you, married couples who are spending your precious time in serving God, I applaud you and I pray you’ll endure despite the bumpy roads ahead and continue to experience His hands manifest in your intimacy, finances, health, ministry and other areas of your life. Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well, Matthew 6:33.

For married couples who are struggling to be intimate with each other, could it be that the missing piece is to seek and serve God together? It’s not yet too late, you can start by praying and asking Him for opportunity to do so, where He has placed you and see how He can radically change your marriage.

And for singles, let me ask you, “is the relationship you’re pursuing or you’re in right now will end up towards you and him or her serving God together? If so, keep pushing, otherwise, with different beliefs and pursuits, it may be the time to let go.

Why?

Because on the cross in Calvary 2000 years ago, He served you, don't you think He deserves to be served by you? Let’s put it this way…

He died for you, will you not live for Him?